What Can You Offer Her?
What kind of a woman attracts me? I like a girl who works hard. Someone who values time with others and is confident around a crowd. She has to be classy and she has to have a sense of drive. She's gotta have goals and aspirations. Her vision of the future is an important asset if I'm trying to be part of it. She has to be a NICE girl. No antics, games, or burn books in her library. These are just some of the things I ask for.
Now switch roles!
What's she looking for in you?
No girl wants to be with a dead beat. Everything you want in your woman, she also wants in you. Gentlemen, success attracts. You may be handsome but for girls, even your looks will get old. The right women will want more.
So what can you offer her?
Gentlemen, women use a few key things to separate you from the boys. Have a job! You cannot spend every hour playing XBOX! That's great fun but no girl is going to want to spend every night playing Call of Duty with you. That's not a relationship. A job shows drive, aspirations and responsibility. Have your own form of employment and income. Don't be a couch potato, have a job.
Learn to cook! Not every meal you two share should be at a restaurant where you pay a huge bill. Spend some, nights in. Cook her dinner and spend quality time making her something she likes. This shows that you care about pleasing her and it also shows your nurturing side. Cooking for your girl shows you too can be a provider. Plus, it's a rarity, not many guys can actually cook! Be the exception.
If you're in school make sure you're getting good grades. Intelligence is sexy. You want to be able to engage in intelligent conversation with your girl. Make sure you have your academic career in order. Smart is the best kind of sexy to any girl!
Most importantly, be yourself. Don't have a side for her, a side for your friends, and a side for your parents. Be the same person with everyone you meet. Be kind, generous, and treat everyone with respect. If you act like an ass hole or a tough guy to others, how long before you start acting that way towards her?
The right kind of girl is going to be one for the long haul. If you wish to be that guy to her, be more than just a face for her to look at. Be a person she can engage with.
"A real gentleman will not persuade you with his words, he will reassure you with his actions."
Be the man she's looking for, and she'll be the woman you've never been able to find.
